Get to know me.

Why couples?  I have had a curiosity about couplehood since a very young age. My parents were a part of the Worldwide Marriage Encounter community and we had couples come in and out of our home throughout my youth. Why do some relationships thrive against all odds and others relationships,  that may even look good on the outside, fail? Why do some couples fall silent and fade away from each other while other couples stick it out and fight for their relationship? These questions continue to drive me.

Why EFT?  Working with couples is different than working with individuals.  It takes a different set of skills that need to be continually stretched and challenged.  While working with me you will find that I do my best to honor each of your experiences.  The EFT process provides a safe environment for each of you to learn about this negative cycle that you find yourselves in.  We will work together to make sense of it.  EFT helps clients send more clear messages and creates opportunities for new bonding moments.  EFT facilitates connection and bonding.   

Which couples? I have experience with all types of couples: married, life partners, heterosexual, same sex, inter racial, inter religious.  I have worked with couples who are “not connecting”,  experiencing the trauma of affairs,  as well as couples dealing with acute trauma such as a miscarriage, the death of a loved one,  an accident or illness.  Some of my couples look like me but most do not!  If you have any questions about me or my style, I encourage you to reach out. 

Affairs?  Affair recovery is a common need in couples’ therapy.  Whether your relationship is experiencing a long term physical affair,  an “emotional affair” or a “fling”,  affairs are painful and deeply traumatizing.  There are also situations that feel like our partner is having an affair.  We called these conflicting attachments.  Our partner is emotionally unavailable.  They feel unreachable.  Perhaps it is a preoccupation with work or a preoccupation with children that can block the relationship.  EFT helps walk couples through this painful place into what can be a more engaged and fulfilling bond.

Thinking about separation or divorce?  If this is you then EFT is a good place to start.  EFT helps couples deescalate and uncover how they feel about self, about other and about the relationship.  Through this researched process, you will get a better picture of what your relationship is and what it can be.  EFT is not Discernment Counseling, however you will be able to discern if the relationship is something that you both want to continue.